Bird Set Free

Men you may never understand this....  Well most of you won't a few may.

 

I had on my daughter's beats this morning and Sia started pounding out Bird Set Free and sometimes you just need to sing at the top of your lungs.  I'm sure my serenade was not appreciated by the 11- and 8-year-old as they left the room looking like MOM.  I danced around and sang at the top of my lungs just not caring what anyone thought because sometimes music just grips your soul and transforms you into a different realm.  I sang and danced until I was literally breathless and then started all over again.  It was one of those times when a passion inside of you connects with the music, the artist and the words to a level you can't explain unless you have experienced it. 

 

As I screamed "We hold on so tight, but I don't wanna die, no I don't wanna die, I don't wanna die, And I don't care if I sing off key, I find myself in my melodies, I sing for love, I sing for ME I shout it out like a bird set free" My whole life resonating in front of me in my soul and memories.  Memories of when I had clipped wings and was held to the ground.  My scream inside that I could no longer deny making the choice between life and death then the high price of consequences from choosing to live and losing part of your life/heart that crippled me so that I was again wounded on the ground held down like I had no air left to breathe.  The years it took to fill my lungs with air that wasn't toxic while trying to learn to live without 4 parts of my heart that had been ripped away as if they had never been.  Sometimes I wonder if choosing to remain alive was the lesser of two evils or not. Yes, all of the past rushed forward.  Some people have no clue what it's like...

 

And yes, I'm going to go here because it's truth and anyone's truth is worth saying I no longer sit silently not saying what I want to like I did as a child so that I would not get smacked or as a young wife so that I would not pay the high consequences that I ended up paying anyways *believe abusers threats ladies* I found my voice and never again will I be silent. 

 

As a woman, your voice is often the most powerful thing we have and the first thing that is attacked to be taken from you by abusive and/or controlling people.  You are taught you cannot say this or that and if you have a different opinion, it is better to just stifle the words or there are consequences.  They are always right you are always wrong.  Of course, NOT all women experience this, and it comes in many forms.  An abusive or even just controlling parent, an abusive spouse, a boss who doesn't want to hear you speak because his 'buddies' are more valuable than your womanly voice.  You couldn't possibly be smarter than them.  It is an unfortunate truth.  Those who disagreed are denying the women who it happens to every single day.  Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen to others so count yourself blessed and try to understand those who walk a different truth than you. 

 

I want to talk to you ladies especially you mothers of daughters.  Speak up, speak out, even if it scares you so much you feel like nothing is going to come out of your mouth.  YOU are valuable.  YOU are worth your thoughts and opinions YOU are worthy!!!!  Not only for yourself, but your daughters are watching you.  Don't ever lose your voice.  If you are stuffing your words and biting your tongue and screaming inside, then most likely to some level your voice is gone. Mothers teach your daughters to scream their truth to the top of the roof! Teach them their thoughts are valuable, worth it and a treasure to be shared! I was not able to teach my older daughters that, but I am so proud of the beautiful women I see they have become who do speak their minds, stand their ground, and have THEIR VOICE.  I am teaching their younger sisters at a young age to speak up SHOUT IT OUT like a bird set free.  That nothing should be left unsaid, and all things can be said in a respectful way.  Women are so strong.  We are SO strong ladies.  We are a force that can change the world.  Find your voice ladies don't ever let anyone, not even your spouse crush you, hold you to the floor, and clip your wings so that you cannot fly and sing as you were created to do!

 

 

Now I fly, hit the high notes

I have a voice, have a voice, hear me roar tonight

You held me down

But I fought back loud

 

I don't care if I sing off key

I find myself in my melodies

I sing for LOVE

I sing for ME

I shout it out like a bird set free!!!

Now before I get any MEN are important too comments.  Of course, you are, but we are talking just about us for a moment gentlemen. :)